You can be a polytheist, a pantheist, a monotheist, and an atheist, and still be pagan too. Because paganism isn’t just what contemporaries attempt to define it as, it’s all possible things when you take historical paganism into account.
Anyone who wants to argue and gatekeep can take their useless piss somewhere else. You’re never going to settle this mental masturbation until you can provide objective proof of the gods existing as you think they do. Trust me I know what it’s like to see people take a label that you think means one thing and others do something completely opposite to it (to the point where you’re just disgusted by them), but the fact of the matter is that you can’t control it, and there’s always a chance that you’re the one going about it wrong.